October 13, 2020

HOW IT ALL STARTED

Everybody has their own version of how their relationships started. Some may have already known each other since kids, some just met and suddenly get married, some got married because their parents match them together and many other versions of love story. I've always wanted to write it here about how me and Affiq Emara met. But i guess, the best time is when we already got married. Hehe. So yeah. Here's our story.


So, Emara told me that his first time saw me was actually on our mutual friend, Shazana Hashim's Instagram account. He saw me in a picture probably taking selfie with Zana but he didn't do anything at that time. Instead, he tried to approach me on Twitter and pretended as if he first saw Zana on one of my tweets. Haha. That was his very first move i guess.

Zana was Emara's primary school friend and she was my Diploma and Degree classmate. At that time, i remember asking Zana about him and Zana was like "tak payah lah piqah dia ni" hahaha. I've always believed in Zana's judgement so yeah, nothing about him deserved my attention at that time. Especially when i was also on a phase that i was way too comfortable with being single and not in the mood of being with anyone at all at that time. 


Over the time, all Emara did was replying to my tweets one after another. But being my old self, i felt nothing but annoyed with him. He was like, always there every time i was on Twitter. I saw his tweets asking about statistics lah or replied to my tweets like yknow. I even hated him for a while back then because i was so rimas with him. But somehow, i still replied to his tweets occasionally and never blocked him for real which i never know why.

And oh, after we were already together, Emara told me that when he asked me about where i live and i said that i live in Rantau, he said that he actually Googled on Rantau to ask me about the Eco Park just to keep the conversation going. Lol. Okay now suddenly it's cute. Kbye. 


Tbh, the "udara ni tak segar tanpa awak" is one of the most things that i remember about him. It was cringed af at that time but it just stucked on my mind. I swear at that time, i just see him as someone who was just playing around and if i rejected him, one way or another, he will surely go to chase another girl and i will be gone from his mind in no time. That was my solid opinion about him.

I can't remember how long he was trying to get my attention on Twitter. But what i really remember was, he moved on from Twitter to Instagram where he suddenly followed me on Instagram and i followed him back. On Instagram, he was far less annoying since he was not trying so hard to hit on me like he did previously on Twitter. All he did was just replying to my Instagram stories as a good friend and asked about random things that our common friends will ask. So i had no reason to hate him at that time. And yeah, we became friends somehow. 

Until one day, when i was doing my part time job at Shell, Emara suddenly dm-ed me and told me that he will be coming to Shell to see me the next day. And i was like, "erk, no (?)" that i didn't even reply to his dm hoping that he understand my silence and never came. Because dude, we barely know each other and what conversation do you expect us to have when we are looking in each others' eyes? Awkward. So, no. Just no.

But he was persistent. The next day, he really came to my workplace. Lol. The moment i saw him from afar, i just ran into the store room to hide like a freak. Hahaha. I remember how my Shell friends were all confused of what happened at that time. I even monitored him from the CCTV hoping that he will leave ASAP, but he ended up waiting for me for like an hour, idk. It was one of the longest time in my life. No lie.

I even called Sarah and Zana and told them like, "Emara is seriously no joke lah man". At that time, Zana even laughed and teased me saying, "tak apa, nanti ada juga kenangan untuk cerita kat anak cucu". And i was like, "Hell no Zana! Please lah no!". Hahaha. How time is a funny thing. And so, on that day, Emara just went home without seeing me at all. Poor him and i did feel sorry about him but i don't even feel like apologizing to him at all at that time. Sigh. I was such a monster. 


Time passed by, and suddenly on 2018 when my birthday was coming, Emara dm-ed me and told me that he bought me a birthday present, which was obviously nothing for me to be excited about. Lol. It was out of the blue, so i just thanked him and told him to just post out the present to me. But he insisted to meet me and give the present to me by himself. After contemplating with Sarah whether to see him or not, and Sarah also insisted me to see him, so yeah, i decided to just do it and go see him for dinner. 

Our first meeting was at Pak Li Kopitiam, Seksyen 7, Shah Alam. He gave me a Naelofar Sajada for my birthday (which we still use until today). And i gave him a luggage tag from Typo. I bought the luggage tag because i don't want to just meet him and let him go home with empty hands since i already knew that the purpose we were seeing each other was for him to give me my birthday present. When i bought that luggage tag, i remember having a thought that, if this were the first and the last time i meet him, at least i was not going to be the bad, ungrateful girl who just receive things and never give anything back.  

But turned out the meeting went really well that i absentmindedly liked him and his personality right at that time. And yeah, i learned something on that day. All of these times, i saw him as someone really really annoying and i thought that there's no way on earth i can even be close with him. But when i met him in person, i realized that he is actually a good person and easy to talk with irl.

And our first face to face conversation was not awkward at all unlike from what i predicted to be. We had our good small talk that evening and before we went home, Emara asked for my number (because all this while he just reached me through Twitter and Instagram).

And the rest as they say, is history.  


This photo was taken when Emara graduated with his Degree on 2018. It was one of the earliest photos of us together. Here's to more photos of us in the future and here's to the rest of our lives. Thank you for approaching me in the first place and never left ever since. I love you, husband. 

October 9, 2020

AFFIQ X AFIQAH




We are married! Alhamdulillah! I've been anxiously waiting for this day since forever. It's not just about getting married itself but also because of the Covid-19 pandemic. I was really worried if the lockdown is happening right before our wedding date that we have to postpone our wedding. But alhamdulillah everything went really well and smoothly.

My wedding preparations were not all plain sailing. I believe that everybody had their own hiccups with their weddings and mine was the preparation. The initial plan was to invite a total of 1700 guests but due to the pandemic, our guests were reduced down to only 300 guests. And the initial plan was also to nikah on the Friday night (2/10/2020) and the reception on Saturday (3/10/2020). But in the end, we combined both ceremony only on the 3rd October 2020. And alhamdulillah everything was all okay, almost perfect and i couldn't be happier about it.  

Thanks to our Tok Kadi, Ustaz Shamsuri as well for being as supportive and ease everything for us regarding the nikah matter. All we did was just submitting the borang nikah to him and then just meet him on the nikah day for the solemnization. Simple as that. No tricky questions for the groom, no fuss, no nothing. May Allah bless Ustaz Shamsuri.

Also thank you to our family for being so understanding about the pandemic situation. We had to cut down a large number of people who can actually attend the wedding. The feeling was awful but we had to it for the sake of everybody's health and safety. Many thanks to those who helped us with the preparation of the wedding, gave us wedding presents and everything. Thank you to our family and our closed friends for being there. I appreciate every one of it. May Allah bless all of you for eternity.  

To my family; especially my dad, my mom and my sister, do not worry for i am still the same me. There's no such thing as me going somewhere else or to the other side of the world just because i got married. I will still love you the way i was (even better) and pray that i will grow to be a wiser and stronger woman starting from now on. InsyaAllah. Amin YRA. To my in laws, i promise that i will take care of Affiq Emara like how i take care of myself. And i will make sure that his love for his family will never go any lesser. InsyaAllah.

To my husband, Affiq Emara, may our unity makes us more of we are and not less. May our love grows each day and we lift each other's soul for the better. May we both tolerate and complete each others' life until the end of time. We've come a long way and have a longer way to go. I pray that this marriage will hold us to our darkest hours, encourage us through days and nights, may we forever see each other as a blessing and may this marriage unites us in Jannah. InsyaAllah Amin YRA. 



And for our honeymoon, we decided to just go for 3 days staycation of sun and fun by the sea at Avillion Port Dickson and Lexis Hibiscus Port Dickson. It was worth every penny. And we were both really happy. Though all we really did was just eat and eat and sleep. Hahaha. We are not going to live together for the time being since i'll be at Putrajaya and my husband is working and living at Melaka until i don't know when. But we will get through it together. Please pray that everything will just be fine for both of us. InsyaAllah.