I still remember it was on a sunny Friday noon. The males were having their Friday prayers, thus, the lunch hour during Friday is longer compared to the other working days. So i decided to go to 1 Mont Kiara, the mall across the road for window shopping and get myself something to eat. Unluckily, suddenly it was raining cats and dogs and i didn't bring any umbrella with me. Obviously i can't cross the road without getting very wet. Along with other pedestrians that have no umbrella, i just waited for the rain to stop at the outside of the mall.
All of a sudden, there's this one lady came to me, and gave me her brand new umbrella. I was like; It's okay because how are you going to cross the road later on? And how am i going to give this umbrella back to you? Calmly she replied; Don't mind me. Just take the umbrella. You need it more than me at this moment. I almost cried with the rain because seriously, what did i do to deserve this act of kindness? There were many pedestrians she can pick to give her umbrella but she picked me. Alhamdulillah. May Allah shower the lady with abundant blessings and may she gets the best in life and the hereafter. Amen! I still have the umbrella with me until today. Hehe one good deed remains.
I accept as true that what the lady did was actually not in the norm for our society. Even if i was in her shoes, i might not just giving away my umbrella to random people because i know that i will be using the same umbrella over and and over again in the future like, how it is all about me and not about others. It's a shame though. I own that.
But what i want to highlight is, being nice is matters. Being nice is important but seems very hard to do in current times. Yet, people long for niceness. I'm not only saying about giving your umbrella for free to the other person but look around us. People are quick to express their outrage and disdain for others. Everybody seems to have strong opinions about everything and are not shy at all to express them with vigor doesn't matter whether the opinions are good or bad. We are so used with being mean, rude and arrogant that we think it is okay (sadly even feel cool and great about ourselves) to do it on daily basis. Like, let me give you few situations:
1. We feel okay to look down to other people and feel superior to those who are not as rich as we are, as clever as we are or as good standard as we think we are. We often do this to the janitors, the banglas or immigrants that are here to earn money because their countries are not as fortunate as ours. And sometimes to the McDonalds employees because we are fed with mentality that those who are working as such are actually not as good as us who working in the so called 'better' industry. And we are living with the mentality of "customers is always right". While if it's us who are in the wrong situation, doens't matter if we are the best, loyal customers, this slogan never applies like for real. Grow up.
2. You are working at the luxury or high-end retail stores as a sales assistant. Someone is coming to the store. Since you are paid for 'only' assisting the rich that wear good looking outfits and seems to have such amount of money, and this particular person entering the store looks just so so and you think that person could never afford such brand (might be poor or lost or something). So you give that person such an arrogant look and sometimes to be easy, just be rude to this kind of people because you think that he/she didn't worth being around the store. I mean, are you seriously doing this? Should i remind you that you are just a sales assistant, not the owner of the brand. Those people that you looked down might having more money in their bank account compared to yours. Come back to earth. Just do your damn job evenly.
3. You are driving a brand new let say, BMW. So you automatically expecting other people on the road especially those who just driving the local car brands to respect and prioritize you as you are because come on, it's BMW guys! Not Perodua nor Proton ew. Everybody needs to give ways to you first in whatever condition. Sometimes, no signals from you is needed because it is you, BMW (okay we got it). And oh, during traffic jam, you don't care about others since the priority is always yours since your car is one of the most expensive on the road so others, please back off! Even when accidents happen because of you sometimes, since the other car or person that got hit is just nah, so whatever, the fault is theirs. Lol. I seriously never understand these kind of people like, why are those who have bigger and better car always have the least common sense on the road? Is it a curse or something? And you know what's worse? When you are not even driving a luxury car at all but pretend like one by being the road dumpsters. Smh.
However, please don't get me wrong. I believe and i know that these three situations does not apply to everyone. But these situations are really the ones that's happening everyday in our lives. Honestly it is not okay at all, especially if we are the cause or that kind of jerk. It is also not something for us to be proud of. Ever. Being nice is such a good vibe that not only will you be more liked but trusted and respected, too. So let's bring it back in fashion. Give niceness a chance. Be nice. It's easy.
